how to not be a stressed out mumma

POOPED? All the time? ME TOO!!! Having children, large and small, can be so challenging. I love being a mumma, adore my son, but somehow, somewhere I’ve lost a little part of me.  This little part of me has been my spiritual side.  And by spiritual, I’m talking about what connects me to ME, to being present, to being grateful, to feeling calm, and to feeling energised.  When I am connected to ALL THESE THINGS, I really feel wonderful.

To be honest, it’s been a rather large year for my family.  My beautiful big brother has had major neuro surgery.  This has been incredibly taxing, on all of us.  The stress of seeing a loved one really unwell is real.  It’s old fashioned stress.  BAM, there go the adrenals…running around all over the show, releasing in the short term stress hormone adrenalin.  Once tired of releasing adrenalin, stress hormone cortisol takes over…and this baby just keeps on keeping on.

To then add to my rather stressed out system, my dear dad passed away.  Worst 2 weeks of my life.  I feel blessed to have been present, I feel blessed to have connected to my dad and watch his strength as he peacefully passed.  My brother, his girlfriend and my son all came together and looked after each other as best we could.  Emotions were sky high, anxiety was tapping on my door, adrenalin was pumping, and cortisol was in the wings waiting to take over again.

 

What did I do to support my body physically?

NUTRITION! Back to basics… our cells are happy when we give them nutrients, this make them work well and support all our physical functions.  REALLY important through times of stress are vitamin C (keeps the adrenals very happy), zinc (keeps everything happy) and B vitamins.  I choose to take activated B’s, these little babies are all ready for absorption and to take action in the body, your body doesn’t need to work as hard to convert them to activated forms, because you guess it…the hard work is mostly done!  I also turn to herbal formulas to help through really tough times, however that is beyond my qualifications to give specific remedies to help.  I just smile and nod as my naturopath hands me mine!

It’s very hard to eat well when you are in a stressed zone.  But try, you know the drill…whole foods, lots of veggies, bone broths, nurturing food, soul loving foods.  Try to avoid alcohol, we think it helps us to unwind, but really it is putting more stress on the body, our liver then has to work harder to eliminate…snowball effect and our adrenals just have to keep pumping more adrenalin out to help our stressed bodies…. phew it’s exhausting!!!  So put down the wine and pick up a glass of bubbling water with a splash of lime. Or at least alternate.

Legs Up the Wall…YOGA  ! Here is a great yoga pose that helps the adrenals to relax.  Try it if you are awake in the middle of the night..seriously good.

Gentle walks…NOT RUNNING LIKE A MAD WOMAN! Slow down, walk the neighbourhood and notice the flowers, the trees, the wind on you skin.

What did I do to support my mind and spirit?

I confess, I didn’t.  I buried my head in the sand. Really.  I disconnected myself from my spirit.  I truly believed it was becoming ‘too cool’ to be spiritual, so I didn’t want to be a part of the trend. I just got on with it.  And down…I ….Went.  I didn’t have the energy for getting out of bed, making the bed, cleaning the house, playing with my son, cooking the dinner, conversations with my partner.  Sounds like I was borderline depressed, but it didn’t feel like that. It just felt like I couldn’t lift my arms.  Weeks went by, 10 in fact, and then I felt like I couldn’t cope with all the stress anymore.  I called my mum and I cried.  She made me feel better. Mums are like that!  Then I made an appointment with my kinesiologist Clare.  We hit a few home truths.  And then I worked it out, I had ‘forgotten’ my spirit, in an attempt to be different.  I had read a piece a friend had written about her morning rituals, and something ignited within me, I wanted that peace, that focus, that time with my son where he had all of me.  So over the last week, I have been connecting with me again.  Tuning into my greatness.  Setting intentions (thanks Oprah). MANIFESTING…oh god what will people think of me!!!!

 

SO WHAT DO I DO NOW!… slowly does it! I’m into Angel Cards, Doreen Virtue in fact.  So I play with the cards, to help me be present, to set intentions, to be clear, to connect.oprah-winfrey-quotes-23.jpg

 

I’m working on the meditation.

I’m working on the Manifesting

I’m working on the rituals too…lighting pretty candles, reading, gratitude diary

Do things that make me HAPPY

I’m working on Journalling

I love connecting with nature…I make sure Rafael and I put our feet on the earth every day. thats without shoes.

 

I am learning how to de-stress. How to find time for all the craziness life brings, and how to most importantly look after me in amongst all this.  I love looking after myself holistically, it’s so important to incorporate all aspects of health, to be a strong pillar for our children and families.  As Oprah (the great! OMG yes I’m a little obsessed after seeing her in the flesh) says: Remember your spirit.

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